Thursday, July 15, 2010

Step 3: Accept Yourself!

Here is step 3 for how to practice Radical Acceptance. What do you think?

Step 3: Accept yourself. Don't listen to the little voice in your head that says you aren't good enough. Accept the way you are, right now, without judgment.

(referency my June "Radical Accepance" post for background)


  1. I generally don't have much trouble in this area of accepting myself. That is - until my son's addiction took me down the dark and slippery path of self-doubt, guilt, and "what if I..." conversations that don't have answers. While many have preached to me the 3Cs, I have struggled to free myself from self-accusation. It's like after 24 years of being a very confident mom, I started having a maternal identity crisis.

    Thankfully, I have great support and I am learning to start turning my back to this destructive, obsessive temptation.

    These are some things that have helped:
    - this online community of grieving parents (finding out that good homes and good parents don't always produce drug-free children)
    - my counselor who introduced the concept of Radical Acceptance
    - my husband who thinks I am the best mother in the world
    - my God who reminds me that most of our heroes of the faith have made serious mistakes, but they were not enough to stop Him from accomplishing His purposes
    - exercise, it's a stress-buster for me.
    - finding ways to laugh, with friends, with a movie (Toy Story 3 was very funny).
    - Al-Anon, I am meeting some truly wonderful people who understand my pain, share their insights, and extend a warm hand of support.

    Blessings to you all.

  2. Acceptance and forgiving myself is the thing I have to do before I can truly move on to accepting and making amends to others.